1.  I (or whomever the “victim” is) don’t like when you _______ (Name the offensive action).  Examples:  I don’t like when you kick me.  Sarah doesn’t like it when you bite her.

2.  That makes me (victim) sad/upset when you _______ (offensive action). Examples:  That makes me sad when you hit me.  That makes Grandma upset when you throw your cup on the floor.

3.  Please stop _______ (offensive action). Example:  Please stop sitting on top of your brother.  Please stop talking so loudly.

4.  When you feel better, maybe you will say you are sorry.

5.  You need to take a break/time-out and when you feel better, you may _______ (Name action).  Examples:  You need to take a break on the steps and when you feel better, you can get up.  You need to sit in the uncooperative chair and when you feel better you can come find me in the kitchen.

6.  The _____ (Name object) is not for ______ (Name action).  Examples:  The train is not for throwing.  Hands are not for hitting.  Feet are not for kicking Mommy, they are for kicking balls.

7.  Look at how sad/upset that made _____ (Name victim) feel.

8.  You need to use your words, not your body, to tell ________ (Name victim) ________ (What the child’s behavior was actually “saying”).  Examples:  You need to use your words, not your body to tell your sister you don’t want her to sit next to you.

9.  _______ (Name action) is not OK. Examples:  Hitting is not OK.  Spitting is not OK.

10.  I love you, but I don’t like it when you _______ (Name action).  Example:  I love you, but I don’t like it when you hit me.